Harmony

Your alarm rudely awakens you at 5:30 a.m. with the audacious blare of Adele’s “Rollin’ in the Deep” that your twelve year old downloaded for you while you were busy cooking dinner, helping your fourth grader diagram sentences, and taking two phone calls from your hysterical mother who can’t find her Shih Tzu for the fifth time today.  

You are fatigued. You are tired. You are exhausted. And you have every right to be. 

You are balancing the dynamics that many modern women struggle with: Work, family, the in’s and out’s of daily life. There isn’t much left in your day for you. When there is, you are just too tired to make it to the gym or out the door for that run you keep telling yourself you will get to.  

Well it is time that your Nike’s don’t look like you just took them out of the box even though they are five months old. They are crying for some TLC and would do just about anything for some scuff marks or even a ripped shoelace. Something to show them you care. 

But no matter how many pep talks you have with yourself, how many times you say “I will get to it just as soon as I finish ...,” or how many motivational reruns of Dr. Phil you watch, you just can not seem to gather the energy to get out the door.  

Well I am going to offer you a few ways that during the new year, you can decrease fatigue and increase your endurance and help to bring some much needed energy.

Remember in the last blog we discussed setting realistic goals. Now that you have determined that your goal is to decrease fatigue so you can have some energy for your own workouts, how do you go about getting to your goal? These are three steps that I have utilized throughout my career to help me refocus on goals I have set. 

First, I always declutter my environment once I have set a goal. I determine the factors that are keeping me from achieving my goal and if there is anything in my immediate surroundings that I can remove, I do so immediately.  

For instance, you have determined that one of the reasons you are so tired is because you are not getting to bed early enough. Determine the factors that are keeping you up late. Then, make the adjustments necessary so you can get into bed on time. Sometimes you have to be creative.  

For example, I turn off my phone and do not answer calls past 9 p.m. My mind needs to wind down and it is time to go into rest mode. Whatever it is can wait until the morning when I am better suited to deal with it. I also clear space in other aspects of my life once I have my eyes focused on a goal.  

I make sure my closets are in order, paperwork filed and gone through and everything organized. The clear space in my physical surroundings makes it easier for me to go from A to B to C throughout my work day.  Being organized means I spend less time looking for things and more time training.  

Hey, I have even put boyfriends out with the recycling because the relationship was too distracting and not adding the support and encouragement I needed during the times I was working towards a goal. Now I am not saying that your kids, husband, pet fish and dog should be waiting out on the curb at the next trash day. But instead, anything that you can determine that is actually not healthy for you needs to be re-evaluated.

Ok, you have cataloged, codified and classified. The shelves are standardized and everything is accounted for. What to do next?  

Once I have created more space for myself, I immediately feel my stress levels decrease. With increased breathing room I can finally carefully choose what I want to add back to my life.  

At this point, you should be focused on reintroducing those aspects that add value to your life. Let’s say you have set the goal to have more energy so you can finally start working out. You have tailored everything accordingly in your life and you are ready to start your workout regime.  

Something that would be of value to your goal would be to add a training session per week with a personal trainer. This will help you reach your target faster.

You have harmonized your life and added those things that bring increased worth. One final step left.  

Add the extras that make a difference. Now you are finally at the place where you have the energy and time to add the “extras” to your life.  

For instance, taking the time to make a healthy breakfast before work will definitely give you more energy than your old 10:30 a.m. habit of two jelly-filled donuts at the office break room. Having your water bottle that sits on your desk at work filled with Vitalyte instead of triple-caff, extra-bold, quadruple pressed coffee, is a much better hydration solution.  

Slipping on your Nike’s and heading out for a walk or a run instead of putting on your slippers and heading to the couch for a few hours of TV when you get home is a much healthier option. It is true that one positive change leads to another and even though there are times when you would really like to leave the kids outside next to the Hefty Cinch Sacks, now that you are less stressed, less fatigued and more energized, when those moments do happen, you are better equipped to handle them. 

Happy harmonizing and look for my next blog about what to cook for that healthy breakfast.